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Deeply Unfashionable.
Jun. 9th, 2008 12:42 pmWatching something light and fluffy on the tv whilst waiting for the laundry to finish. Apparently a rather ugly footballer is marrying his rather pretty girlfriend and it's costing FIVE MILLION POUNDS.
Ack.
The tv piece in question then brought out a "wedding planner" who discussed the fact that 85% of women want their weddings to be like something from a celebrity magazine. Most women started saving for their weddings before they even met the right chap, and 26% of women would consider remortgaging their homes to pay for it. It's the fashionable thing to do, apparently, having a very expensive wedding.
I think back to my wedding, and marvel that we did it for so little money. Even better was the fact that it didn't bother us that we were having a cheap wedding. My wonderful mum made my wedding dress, and a friend of hers let us borrow his Wolsley car to go to the church (I think we paid him a six-pack of Carlsberg Special Brew). Friends in our Dojo made our cake (one layer only) and the Bridesmaid dress came from Laura Ashley. We had a reception in the local Football Club (fuzzy wallpaper and the Double D Disco!) where soup was served from tea urns (the stove couldn't cope). The big expense was paying for a beef dinner for 40 people, which my parents gallantly offered to pay for, but the expense was offset by having a DIY buffet in the evening. The honeymoon was three days in the New Forest (still remembered very fondly!). I don't think the entire thing could have cost more than a few hundred quid tops.
Of course, I was madly old-fashioned in thinking that the actual marriage (ie. the bit that comes afterwards) was more important than the ceremony part. As long as we had a vicar, a service and two witnesses, I would have been happy. I didn't care whether I looked like the celebrity bride du jour, because I could see Tim waiting at the end of the aisle for me and that was, quite frankly, all I wanted.
I guess that it's vindication of my attitude when you consider that our cheapy-cheap DIY wedding has lasted many times longer than many a wedding that cost 100 times more than ours.
Ack.
The tv piece in question then brought out a "wedding planner" who discussed the fact that 85% of women want their weddings to be like something from a celebrity magazine. Most women started saving for their weddings before they even met the right chap, and 26% of women would consider remortgaging their homes to pay for it. It's the fashionable thing to do, apparently, having a very expensive wedding.
I think back to my wedding, and marvel that we did it for so little money. Even better was the fact that it didn't bother us that we were having a cheap wedding. My wonderful mum made my wedding dress, and a friend of hers let us borrow his Wolsley car to go to the church (I think we paid him a six-pack of Carlsberg Special Brew). Friends in our Dojo made our cake (one layer only) and the Bridesmaid dress came from Laura Ashley. We had a reception in the local Football Club (fuzzy wallpaper and the Double D Disco!) where soup was served from tea urns (the stove couldn't cope). The big expense was paying for a beef dinner for 40 people, which my parents gallantly offered to pay for, but the expense was offset by having a DIY buffet in the evening. The honeymoon was three days in the New Forest (still remembered very fondly!). I don't think the entire thing could have cost more than a few hundred quid tops.
Of course, I was madly old-fashioned in thinking that the actual marriage (ie. the bit that comes afterwards) was more important than the ceremony part. As long as we had a vicar, a service and two witnesses, I would have been happy. I didn't care whether I looked like the celebrity bride du jour, because I could see Tim waiting at the end of the aisle for me and that was, quite frankly, all I wanted.
I guess that it's vindication of my attitude when you consider that our cheapy-cheap DIY wedding has lasted many times longer than many a wedding that cost 100 times more than ours.
