Update on horrible T-shirts.
Jun. 26th, 2006 11:47 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Whilst at the Lincolnshire Show last week, I saw absolutely the most horrible example of the children's t-shirts that I object to:
"Saw it. Wanted it. Threw a tantrum. Got it."
I can't say how cross that makes me. I've spent the last 10 years trying to teach that throwing tantrums results in sitting down until you're quiet and not getting the thing that you're after. I had kind of hoped that I wasn't the only one.
Judging by the sales and delighted exclamations of parents holding it up to other parents, I think I may be one of the few who don't see tantrums as cute or funny.
*sigh*
"Saw it. Wanted it. Threw a tantrum. Got it."
I can't say how cross that makes me. I've spent the last 10 years trying to teach that throwing tantrums results in sitting down until you're quiet and not getting the thing that you're after. I had kind of hoped that I wasn't the only one.
Judging by the sales and delighted exclamations of parents holding it up to other parents, I think I may be one of the few who don't see tantrums as cute or funny.
*sigh*
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Date: 2006-06-26 11:06 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 11:13 am (UTC)Funny, one of my best friends is a nanny. She and I talk about not having problems with temper tantrums -- because they got nipped off right from the start. Tantrums don't get attention, they get exile. It's sad that so many parents seem not to have a clue about how to deal with them -- or any feeling that they should.
So good for both of you. I'm not the least surprised.
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Date: 2006-06-26 11:15 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 11:14 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 11:16 am (UTC)I will admit that I would have showed it to
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Date: 2006-06-26 06:19 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 11:45 am (UTC)I saw the usual signs plastered up. It's a few years since I was last there, and it was seeming less and less to do with farming. Do the ferrets still hide out in the trees behind the estate agents? It sounds like the spivs and wideboys are still selling their stuff in the SE quarter. I suppose the Young Farmers Clubs are still doing the decorated trailers.
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Date: 2006-06-26 12:15 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2006-06-26 12:33 pm (UTC)I'd not stop abhorring tantrums, and the only effective way of dealing with them, from my observation, seems to be the kind of treatment they get from parents/people like you, the Fairbourns, the Haymans... nip it in the bud, don't give in & be consequent about that.
Hey - this is an excuse for the angry icon, no?
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Date: 2006-06-26 12:38 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 12:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 01:19 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 01:46 pm (UTC)It's one of those cases when I could see how angry it would make me to be laughed when overwhelmed with emotion, so I treat the kids as I'd want to be treated myself. Self-calming is what I'm trying to teach, and Ellie has *mostly* got it, although it still tries Jared on occasion.
But maybe I'm a namby-pamby lefty :-)
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Date: 2006-06-26 07:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 12:49 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 12:50 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 07:38 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 01:18 pm (UTC)I, of course, will say it to anyone's children, unless I'm sure of what the parents want.
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Date: 2006-06-26 02:08 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 02:13 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-26 06:21 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-06-27 11:38 pm (UTC)Anyway. Yes, a shirt to be bought up and recycled. If it has to be available at all, it should *only* be in adult sizes, because the root of this trend, I think, is adults being secretly envious of their children, and they need to be outed.
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Date: 2006-06-26 02:21 pm (UTC)I *have* left shopping carts full of groceries in the store (to return an hour later to find the manager had put my frozen food in the ice chest... and getting a 'good show' for not giving in). And Talis knows that if she asks for something too many times, she will *not* get it. Tantrums have subsided greatly in our house, partly due to age and maturity.
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Date: 2006-06-26 02:22 pm (UTC)no subject
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